12:44pm
23rd January 2012
189 notes
Lately this has been coming up on my facebook feed
from family and friends.
I thought I’d share my opinion here because I didn’t feel it would be appropriate in the climate that is Facebook.
Body-shaming is fucking awful. Nobody should be judged for being fat or chubby or curvy or overweight.
But at the same time, nobody should be put down for being slender or petite or bony, either. I can see my ribs. I can see the bones that make up my wrist joints. I can see my hip bones. It has been this way since I was about nine years old. Since that time, my family (who are shaped nothing like me, they all have full figures, my mother is very curvy) has pressured me to gain weight because I didn’t meet their standards of “normal”. I weigh about 95-100 lbs and I’m about 5’2”. It’s just the way I am built. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve cried over being too thin because I “looked like a skeleton”, was “just skin and bones”, “looked anorexic”, “didn’t have a butt/bust”, etc. to the people around me. My family and closest friends said this kind of crap about me. As much as I wanted to change for them, as much fattening food as I ate, I couldn’t be what they wanted me to be. Physically, at least. And we all know that that’s what matters, right?
Everyone was so goddamn caught up in how thin I was that they didn’t pay a lick of attention to what was going on beneath my skin. Depression, anxiety, anger, even the potential to become someone who makes a difference, someone who can do something, all of this went unnoticed simply because you could see a few ribs.
Keira Knightley, Kirsten Dunst and Heidi Klum are three talented women with (Can’t speak for Nicole, I honestly do not know who that is) eccentricities, personalities, under-the-surface issues, and so on. And shaming them for being thin is just boosting other people’s self-esteem by putting other people down and that, madames and monsieurs,
is fucking disgusting.
The fact that someone would put perfectly decent human beings down simply for being thin is just…
It’s actually such a testament to how obsessed with the outside of a person we’ve become. It doesn’t show acceptance. It doesn’t show that you’re a good person. It doesn’t show that you’re a “nice guy because you hate it when girls ‘starve themselves’”. It shows that you care way too fucking much about how people look.
Thank you.
Everything sketcy said.
I’ve spent my life pogoing between the two different examples sometimes through fault of my own, sometimes not.
I have jeans in my closet that I struggled to do up two years ago and now they fall off, the same jeans I hated because they looked too tight I now hate because they won’t stay up.
But fuck you for suggesting I’m not just as fine as I am now as I was then.
My oldest sister is only a dress size bigger than I am but she’s taller and yet her chest is smaller than mine, my mother had a 27 inch waist at her thinnest, around my age, my grandmas waist was 26 inches on her wedding day yet again around my age. I come from a family of slim women.
And there is nothing wrong with that thank you very much. There is also nothing wrong with being larger either.
Oh and just so you know; My girlfriend has a figure like Bettie Page. And she’s fucking beautiful.
Whoever made this image needs to sit down and look at their life and choices, frankly.
(via smuppett)
